Capt Ron, (little surprised to see an O-6 in advanced but hey, whatever........

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Aviators mature at different rates. Personally, I think the USAF
used to do it right when they put everybody through the T-37 and the T-38 program. I can't tell you how many guys from that era that I have met who nearly washed out of the T-37, and then went on to rock the vote in the T-38 and in their weapons system. Likewise, I flew with students who kicked ass in the T-37 but, barely made it through, or even washed out of, the T-38 program. I think the T-34/T-6/T-37 is a little pre-mature for a cutoff point from which we determine a flying career track - but that's just me. I've taught student pilots in each of the T-37, T-6, and T-38 - as well as taught rated pilots in the T-38. I flew with a former Marine cobra guy who could make the T-38 sing, but had struggled in primary.
But, the system is what it is and you can't change it. Money constraints dictate most of it, and the line has to be drawn somewhere. I guess this is really the long way around to saying that you wont necessarily be able to speed up this maturing process by using what worked for someone else. But, you can do what all great aviators eventually do, which is to learn what it is that YOU need to do to fly well. Look back on your experiences in primary and figure out what worked for you and what didn't - it's not the same for everyone. Do you need to chairfly, make notecards, read in a quiet place, outline your sortie profiles on paper, or watch porn while you talk through the pattern? Whatever it is - you gotta find what works for you. I'm sure you had some successes along with the failures. Your ability to determine what made the difference between the two is a measure of your maturity as a pilot. I guess that's why I look forward to the Navy "big-boy" mentality. In the USAF we spent a lot of time trying to make everybody learn in the exact same way. I got tired of baby-sitting and it lends itself to it's own need. Eventually, you gotta figure it out for yourself - and the sooner you do, the sooner the lights come on.
Best of Luck in Advanced.