Advice for Wives

[mccabe1919]

Anybody have any good advice for selling this whole idea to your wives? She has never really been around the military lifestyle and has a negative portrail of it for what ever reason. Help please!

 

[jdfairman]

Yeah... I wouldn't try to SELL her anything. My wife wasn't real crazy about it either in the beginning; however, I still had an obligation to be totally upfront and honest about everything. Its not the easiest lifestyle in the world, but my wife has grown to like it. She gets the best medical insurance available for free. She goes to the gym,and her personal trainers are free. She's made some good friends that will last a lifetime. We've gotten to see Washington. We're going to get to live in Florida. We get to head back to TX for primary. I mean... theres a million little things that make it so cool. Anyways, feel free to send me a personal message anytime, and I'll try to answer any of your wife's questions. I can even get my wife in on the deal.

When you've got 'em by the balls, their hearts and minds will follow.

 

[Banjo33]

I am posting under my husbands screen name. I would just like to comment that you shouldn't have to sell your wife on anything. Talk to her about the situation. If this is something you truelly want to do, then she should support you. That is what spouses are for. It will rough at times. Other times it will be the most rewarding experience. She should feel a great deal of pride knowing her husband is serving our country and protecting our rights and freedoms. Once she is around it, she will become acustomed to it. Above all she should be there to support you throughout lifes courses and you the same for her. Semper Fi!

 

[jaerose]

Take her to an airshow where the platform you want is performing and see if that doesn't give her chills.

JR

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing."
--Edmund Burke

 

[mccabe1919]

I guess the whole "selling her" thing was a bad choice of words. Let me rephrase. What can I do to put her at ease about the LIFE decision to become a pilot in the Corp. She already has a since of pride do to the fact that I spent 6 years in the Marine infantry but she never had to deal with active duty military life, and that is what I am the most concerned about. I am planning on taking her to the Dayton Airshow this weekend and hopefully that will raise her browes a little. Thanks for all of your advise...

 

[jboomer2]

Everytime I go to an airshow, I get goosebumps and I beam with pride at the though of my husband is a PILOT! A MARINE PILOT at that. Loving and supporting him is what makes me happy. The corp is what makes him happy. It is very tough at times, but also so rewarding. I help him study and I have learned a great deal about the Y-34 while he was in Primary. It is very enjoyable for the both of us. Let her be part and feel needed. That always helps. Remember to always thank you for what she does and show appreciation no matter small the deed was. Good Luck. Semper Fi!

Loving and adoring wife of an Marine SNA!

 

[mccabe1919]

I can only prey that my wife is as understanding as you are. Thanks for the advice and good luck to you as well. I will hear back in a month or so about OCC so I am sweating it out everyday. Two last questions. Did you move to TBS with your husband and have you heard anything about the average amount of time a year I could have to deploy?

 

[jboomer2]

I did move to TBS with my husband. It was kind of rough because we were there a total of less than 7 months. I worked a seasonal job because I felt as though I was lying when they would ask in an interview is I was planning on being in the area for long time. It was cool though. D.C. is an awesome place if you've never been. We also visited NYC which was an amazing experience. Something everyone should do at least once.

As far as I can tell it will depend on what aircraft you select as to the amount of time you will deploy. Maritime don't go for such long deployments but they will go for numerous deployments for shorter periods. Strike, I have heard, are 7 month deployments about every 18 months. Not sure on Helo's. Of course you will hear a hundred different things and read a hundred different things. I got that info from a brief we received at TBS. At TBS one of the first things they do for the wives is have a "Welcome Aboard" spouse orientation meeting. It was somewhat helpful, but the important thing is to just go to meet other wives. If your wife has any questions, please tell her to email me. I have tried to take as much information in as possible to be able to help others because I didn't feel I had anyone. My email is jjboomer@comcast.net.

Good Luck and God Bless!
Jessica

Loving and adoring wife of an Marine SNA!