So far I am on two recruiters.
Last year, my initial recruiter dropped me for reasons I didn't know why, stating in an email that he'd rather I focus on my health and refusing to elaborate.
I managed to find a second recruiter who told me that my first recruiter had dropped me because my mother had called him and said I didn't want to continue with the process, something that she strenuously denied happened.
I moving on to the second recruiter, but a few things happened.
The first time I went to meet my new recruiter to get my documents like birth certificate and ID photo-scanned, my mother insisted on coming along. I didn't think much of it at the time, but what was supposed to be a quick thirty minute affair turned into a three hour meeting when my mother began to lecture my recruiter on his own procedures and ethical guidelines followed by another long talk with my recruiter's superior officer.
At the time, she also asked me to not submit my documents for photo-scanning (although I did so anyways), which in hindsight might have been a red flag.
Fast forward to today, and I am informed by my recruiter that she has filed a complaint against him with his superior officer. The reason she tells me openly is that she thinks my recruiter didn't pre-screen me before MEPS and is telling me to conceal medical information and thus, as she puts it, "leading me down a path of criminality."
She is also going to file a lawsuit against the navy recruiting office in question and has even talked about going to the media about it (and yes, I am quite sure she has the resources to file this lawsuit and likely more of them).
My mother has never once said straight-up that she is against me joining and has claimed she's supportive, but her various actions in the meantime—from disparaging people who join in various ways to finding as many people/resources as possible to send to me who talk about the negatives of joining (to say nothing of what she's currently doing)—don't make me very confident in that claim.
The rest of my family more or less shares her general view on joining, even if I don't think they'd go quite as far as she has (and no, I don't think they'd tell her to cut it out if I asked them to do so).
Furthermore, it's quite obvious that her attempts at intimidation are working quite effectively—my current recruiter has stated that as long as I cannot get my mother to cease (which sounds unlikely to say the least) he won't risk his career for me and the navy won't bother using their lawyers' time on such matters. He has further stated that even if I do switch recruiters it'll be meaningless as my mother will simply file another complaint/lawsuit against the new one instead.
I am at an utter loss as to what to do, or even what I can possibly do.
Last year, my initial recruiter dropped me for reasons I didn't know why, stating in an email that he'd rather I focus on my health and refusing to elaborate.
I managed to find a second recruiter who told me that my first recruiter had dropped me because my mother had called him and said I didn't want to continue with the process, something that she strenuously denied happened.
I moving on to the second recruiter, but a few things happened.
The first time I went to meet my new recruiter to get my documents like birth certificate and ID photo-scanned, my mother insisted on coming along. I didn't think much of it at the time, but what was supposed to be a quick thirty minute affair turned into a three hour meeting when my mother began to lecture my recruiter on his own procedures and ethical guidelines followed by another long talk with my recruiter's superior officer.
At the time, she also asked me to not submit my documents for photo-scanning (although I did so anyways), which in hindsight might have been a red flag.
Fast forward to today, and I am informed by my recruiter that she has filed a complaint against him with his superior officer. The reason she tells me openly is that she thinks my recruiter didn't pre-screen me before MEPS and is telling me to conceal medical information and thus, as she puts it, "leading me down a path of criminality."
She is also going to file a lawsuit against the navy recruiting office in question and has even talked about going to the media about it (and yes, I am quite sure she has the resources to file this lawsuit and likely more of them).
My mother has never once said straight-up that she is against me joining and has claimed she's supportive, but her various actions in the meantime—from disparaging people who join in various ways to finding as many people/resources as possible to send to me who talk about the negatives of joining (to say nothing of what she's currently doing)—don't make me very confident in that claim.
The rest of my family more or less shares her general view on joining, even if I don't think they'd go quite as far as she has (and no, I don't think they'd tell her to cut it out if I asked them to do so).
Furthermore, it's quite obvious that her attempts at intimidation are working quite effectively—my current recruiter has stated that as long as I cannot get my mother to cease (which sounds unlikely to say the least) he won't risk his career for me and the navy won't bother using their lawyers' time on such matters. He has further stated that even if I do switch recruiters it'll be meaningless as my mother will simply file another complaint/lawsuit against the new one instead.
I am at an utter loss as to what to do, or even what I can possibly do.
