When you find out which PSD you are attached to, give them a call and get a NAME. Be polite (the last thing you want to do is ruffle feathers) explain the situation, what you have done to date and ask them what you need to do to fix the problem. Follow up in 2-3 days, by contacting the same person. Big picture is if you are not located in close proximity to your PSD it is very 'easy' for your problem to be of little or no concern to the YN2 or PN2 that is probably responsible for getting your pay squared away.
(Are you sure they have a certified copy of your marriage lic? That would seem to be the biggest potential problem.....just a guess.)
Anyway...good luck. and congrats on your marriage