I'm just going to throw in my 2 cents here, but has anyone considered applying to Auburn University?
Granted, it's not ERAU, or any other "high-caliber" University (read: large sums of money out of pocket for your degree), but it's been fairly military friendly and other than typical university complaints (parking situation, etc) I was treated decently as an Officer Candidate by the University staff and the battalion. The University president is pro-military as well, no doubt lending to the (somewhat) military-friendly attitude the University has.
Tuition is usually less than the stipend, provided you don't have to stack any heavy semesters or repeat any classes. The College of Liberal Arts is pretty good; from what I understand Auburn has one of the better engineering programs in the U.S. (I haven't done any comparative research as of yet though) - considering it's on the list of the 17 schools authorized for Nuke Power STA-21 options, I'd say it has to be pretty good.
If you look around you can find a decent apartment. Opelika, next door to Auburn, has some decent living arrangements as well. Currently I'm in a 2-bedroom house and rent is $715.00/month + utilities.