The wrong angle? I understand that certain jobs will be difficult to get. I said that. If your spouse's job is tied to a certain location, then she's not going to have the flexibility to move when the military tells you to go. That's why I said, with the corporate world embracing remote work and there being more remote jobs available, that should make things easier. This becomes a set of difficult decisions between you and your spouse about what you prioritize in your marriage and your family. No different than most things in a marriage. My buddy and his wife who is an ecowarrior attorney decided that what made the most sense for them was for him to be a geobachelor. I know other couples where the spouse took on remote jobs that they may have been overqualified for or weren't entirely what they had originally wanted to do (school teacher who now works for an online GED program). I know other couples who decided that the civilian spouse would exit the job market until after military retirement. There is no one-size-fits-all approach here.
I tried to get my ex a job with NAVFAC when we were stationed overseas. She was qualified for it and would have liked it. She decided against it. Are women who decide not to work bad? She decided that's what was best for her at the time and I backed her up on it. I do not expect the DoD to bend over backwards to ensure my spouse has the perfect job. Could we make it easier to homestead in a fleet concentration area? Sure. Will there always be those bad deal orders that somebody has to jump on the grenade for? Absolutely. There is no scenario here where we all get to have our cake and eat it too. Somebody has to take the bad deal orders. At some point, two married professionals will need to decide whose career comes first. Sometimes, both scenarios will align with the same married couple. When that happens, you have to make hard decisions. Some decide to get out of the military. That's just life. It happens in the civilian world as well. This isn't unique to the military.