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Percentage of post deployment divorces?
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Pilots: 3.28275%
NFOs: 2.14787%
Crewmen: 1.98456%
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What R1 is getting at is there is no percentage and to even hazard a guess would be silly.
Both parties enter a marriage contract with the best of intentions. If both parties do not fully grasp what they are up against with constant deployments, absences, stress, money, temptations, and a thousand other complicated parts of military life, it soon becomes apparent if they are equipped to handle it or not.
Some couples do great. The spouse left behind is typically able to be independent and have a life that doesn't revolve around their deployed spouse.
Some do not fare well. They are ill equipped to handle it.
Your spouse will be put through an incredible test when you are gone. If they are the type that kisses you goodbye and gets on with things, they will be just fine.
My wife had a harder time adjusting at first, but she found friends and hobbies outside the military that have kept her sane for multiple and frequent absences, some short and some long.
Both parties enter a marriage contract with the best of intentions. If both parties do not fully grasp what they are up against with constant deployments, absences, stress, money, temptations, and a thousand other complicated parts of military life, it soon becomes apparent if they are equipped to handle it or not.
Some couples do great. The spouse left behind is typically able to be independent and have a life that doesn't revolve around their deployed spouse.
Some do not fare well. They are ill equipped to handle it.
Your spouse will be put through an incredible test when you are gone. If they are the type that kisses you goodbye and gets on with things, they will be just fine.
My wife had a harder time adjusting at first, but she found friends and hobbies outside the military that have kept her sane for multiple and frequent absences, some short and some long.
You said it far better than I.
For the OP: Why the question? Yeah…it's tough, but I'm not really sure it's any tougher than for police officers, firemen, commercial airline pilots, doctors, commercial fishermen/mariners…a thousand other careers where long working hours, time away from home, stress, [fill in the blank] and myriad "other things" come in to play.
I think e6bflyer really said it best: The good marriages can get even better (like…WAAY better), the weak ones may not do as well. Choose wisely.
First, consider that the national, "average Joe" divorce rate is already very high, lots of marriages just don't work, Navy or not.
A few anecdotal observations after a few years in the fleet... Spouses who are more independent fare better when left alone, which puts less strain on the marriage. Also, the spouse should really, truly understand what they are getting into before you get married (I wouldn't marry my wife until we had been through a full deployment).
A few anecdotal observations after a few years in the fleet... Spouses who are more independent fare better when left alone, which puts less strain on the marriage. Also, the spouse should really, truly understand what they are getting into before you get married (I wouldn't marry my wife until we had been through a full deployment).
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Years ago I remember reading a study that said divorce rates skyrocket three years after the deployed spouse returns from a year long separation from the family. The weird thing was that I read about that study and my parents told me they were splitting up the next week, and it was 3 years after my dad got back from a year in Saudi. The study was done during the Cold War, and military life wasn't quite the same back then so I'm not sure if things have gotten better or worse empirically speaking.
It's not gay if it's underway....or so I've been told.
I'd say this is probably more of an issue than the other way around, especially with the young enlisted, newly married.
You mean like Jody?
As I would often ask Webmaster as we "grew up" together in the fleet: Why not just go ahead and put on some lead wings and get it over with.
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