FACT Check: Your XO went the ECP (now known as STA-21) route vice OCS. I'm certain there are others who went the same route as well. Those programs you are competing enlisted vs. enlisted where GPA isn't as big of a factor. Just like applying for CPO, it's not uncommon for enlisted to get selected for LDO and STA-21 on several attempts. For OCS, you are competing against enlisted and civilians alike who have high GPAs and OAR scores - which are the two biggest factors for getting serious considered for programs like SWO. All the other people you mention... even if they did go the OCS route they applied during times where competition wasn't as stiff.
You talk about finding active duty folks who gotten selected once, twice, even several times. Find the even greater active duty enlisted who have applied countless times and not get picked up. We have a YN2 in our command who has applied countless times to OCS programs, not to get selected. He has a 2.87 GPA, 55 OAR score, impressive evals/awards (got an NCM for a National Sailor of the Year), and interviews from SWO Captains - all 10s. Guess what? He didn't get selected! Reason why: his low GPA. This YN2 works at an NRD and all of us who work here reviewed his application and ensured he submitted the best product possible.
You are turning into another
@Sean Bishop. You're an active duty guy who thinks they should automatically be selected because you are enlisted and have a degree. You get a waiver/exception to policy and expect that to be your ticket to being selected. What you/him don't take into account are the various criteria and competitiveness these boards have. You don't listed to folks, like myself and
@NavyOffRec who have several years experience putting officer candidates into the Navy. And surprise... you don't get selected! You reapply and surprise again... a non-select! The selection boards don't care if you're active duty/prior enlisted and/or how many LORs/interviews you have from Captains and Admirals. It's not fair when there are candidates out there who don't know "the right people" but have a high GPA, the right degree, and lastly the OAR score the selection boards are looking for. These candidates don't need GPA waivers or favors to get themselves to the board. In the end, you still have a 2.05 undergraduate GPA competing against those who, on average, have GPAs around a 3.4 or higher.
Our jobs aren't to prevent you from being an officer. Our job is to enforce the PAs/requirements and to set yourself up for success. Right now, you're simply not listening.