there are tons of options...
like nearly everyone else has said, it doesn't matter where you get your commission, as long as you get it. THose guys that are out there in the fleet flaunting their Academy Grad mentality are more than likely gonna be looked down upon by their peers. look at other options, NROTC, BDCP, enlist and do STA-21 (you can get a guranteed flight slot through STA-21;if you qualify) The key is that if you want it bad enough there are ways to get it. It will take a lot of hard work and dedication on your part, but from what I understand of you, you seem to be dedicated. On that same vain, the Academy isn't necessarily the best thing for everyone. I had sh*t hot stats coming out of HS; capt of football and track teams, CO of JROTC, student body VP, NHS, tons of community service, 3.9GPA, 2 congressional nominations, blah, blah,blah. you name it I had it. But I didn't get into the Academy. Instead I took a NROTC scholarship, went to another military college and I don't regret it for a second. If you need a rigid structure to help you through college, I would suggest looking at another military college; The Citadel,VMI, etc. College is alot harder than HS and if you struggle with HS, its gonna take that much more hard work to make it through college. from what all my academy friends tell me, academics at USNA are insanely difficult. If you suck at math, which I do, you will struggle there.
In the end it all comes down to making the best out of what you have. Work hard and one day you will achieve your goals.
You know the saying: "If life gives you lemons... make lemonade."
- "Easy"
P.S. sorry about being so long winded.