I'm not giving advice either way here, but I got married a week after commissioning and a week before reporting to NASP. It was perfect in that I was able to be home for a week and spend some time with friends/family and then take a full week long honeymoon before heading to Pcola. When I commissioned we had 3 weeks to report to Pcola (you use leave, but at least you are allowed to take it). Yes, it worked out very well for us, but the stress of not rolling or getting held up in OCS was always there. Also, keep in mind that you will not be there to help her (if you wanted to) when she is doing a lot of the planning, and the only contact you will have will be limited phone calls (1 or 2) throughout the week at OCS. It is very possible to plan a wedding in advance and have it work out, but I would suggest getting you're OCS date first before scheduling anything or sending out those "save the date" cards. And, when you do get your OCS date give yourself around 3 weeks buffer afterwards just in case you decide you like it in Newport and want to stay a little longer. Having said all that, having my wife here has been great, and I wouldn't change anything about how we planned our wedding/honeymoon. PM me if you want some more info. Good luck.
) really wanted the first one to be the "real" one so we waited until we could have the big family one. I regret that now. We basically just threw away all that money that we could have been making had we been married, that could have gone to paying for the big wedding. Also, have you two ever been away from each other for a considerable amount of time before? If you wait until after OCS and API it is a good test as to how the rest of your Military career will be. There is usually a wait between Primary and Advanced so we did it then. He didn't even have to take leave because he was able to OHARP during that time. We didn't have time to take a honeymoon after the wedding (Hawaii after Advanced) but I think that's better because you can have time to unwind after the wedding chaos and have something to look foreward to! I did as much planning as possible prior without knowing the date. Then when you can set a firm date it comes really fast! Downside to that, only half of the people we invited were able to come on such short notice. Upside, cost of the wedding was way less! Okay, reread what I wrote and hope my rambling makes sense!