I hate intrusive leadership. Take care of you guys, ask them how they are doing, but you should not force yourself into their personal life. If they don't want to talk to you (or anyone else), let them be. If they go home, get drunk with their buddies and play Willam Tell with their crossbows....well, that's stupid, but i can't hold their hand 24-7. Now, however, if an alcohol incident happens, I get my butt dragged up with the rest of the CoC and asked why I didn't stop him from doing this! That, to me, is absurd. You can watch your people at work (and you should) but everyone who joins the Navy is an adult, and if they want to go home and do something stupid, you should not be held responsible for this. Unfortunately this is where i see "Intrusive Leadership" going.
Hell, I go home and do stupid things. I don't think it is right if i get caught doing something stupid that my skipper has to stand tall before his boss. I accept responsibility for my own actions off duty and I refuse to accept responsibility - off duty - for the actions of my peers or those working for me. Now, if we're on det somewhere, working for the navy and we get some liberty, then I *AM* responsible, and I accept that.
Hell, I go home and do stupid things. I don't think it is right if i get caught doing something stupid that my skipper has to stand tall before his boss. I accept responsibility for my own actions off duty and I refuse to accept responsibility - off duty - for the actions of my peers or those working for me. Now, if we're on det somewhere, working for the navy and we get some liberty, then I *AM* responsible, and I accept that.