Funny you should mention your dli-graduate friend stationed in hickam and kadena, not using his hard earned chinese skills. This, too, is one of the major problems with the military, the Navy and the Army being the most guilty of squandering these resources. I, too, graduated DLI. To say I've not been impressed with the navy's linguistic programs, would be an understatement. The Air Force, despite your friend's example (which is actually rare for them, but not as much for officers), and the Marines oddly-enough, have the best programs by far.
Unfortunately, I can tell you that if you were to go pilot, you could forget about using your language skills in any capacity for at least 6-8 years. I believe you have to be at least a LCDR to even apply for a FAO slot. Even then, that's absolutely no guarantee you'd be a FAO working in Asia for that matter.
In addition, there is the option of becoming a cryptology officer. You would be able to use your languages,perhaps everday. But kiss travel and FAO good-bye forever, cause' it's just not going to happen.
I've been following this thread intently. I'm now on the fourth year of my enlistment, yet another in a long line of my family member's serving in the armed forces, and I'm just now asking myself the very same questions about the military "attitude" that you're asking. I consider myself a liberal, however I dislike discussing my political views at work. However, since the overwhelming majority of the military is and always will be staunchly conservative, it's assumed that I am, too. Thus, I get innundated with rhetoric, including many things I find downright offensive. The assumption is that you can use the bureacratic system to resolve these
issues if simply requesting doesn't work, but what that fails to take into account is that I have to still work with and bear the scorn of the same folks everyday for the next few years, the same folks who'll be approving my leave and writing my eval's. Good times, indeed. But that is the nature of the business, I'm afraid. Still as much a "good ol' boy's" club as ever.
There is one more thing to consider, though, and it's that the majority of your impressions will have come from the enlisted side. Officers, however, are an entirely different matter. Education and a commensurate level of responsibility makes for more open-mindedness and worldliness than, say, your GED-bearing deck seaman.
Based on your desires to travel, learn and experience other cultures, and use your language skills, I definately wouldn't recommend the Navy, especially not as a pilot. If you were to insist on the military, it would have the be the air force (as far as FAO programs and accomodating travel) You'd be much better off on the civilian side, though. I was also going to mention the Dept. of State, there's always CIA and DIA, too (both of which are hurting for korean analysts)...pretty much anybody on your intel side of the house. In any case, you'd still be "serving" your country.