Thanks for sharing your opinions with me, it means a lot. As a follow-up question, how would you rate the NROTC program at Berkeley? How well does the program prepare for OCS? I'm applying to Stanford, but I'm worried that the program is not that strong since all the mids are so far apart.
I will share my perceptions based on a similar story. Son went to NASS, and liked it. Went to USAFA Summer Seminar and hated it. Knew he wanted to go Navy, but decided NROTC was a better fit for him. Seriously considered Stanford, and we flew out there to check it out. Great school, rep, etc, etc.
The problem is that the unit is in Berkeley. I kept my mouth shut, but my opinion after 25+ years observing this is that participating as a cross-town student midshipman is a tough way to do it. Let's assume the Naval Science class meets on Tuesday and Thursday @ 1000-1115. That means you can't schedule any 0900 classes or any 1200 classes as you have to factor in the commute time between Berkeley and Stanford. You also have to decide how many voluntary NROTC activities you can participate in because there's that commute factor again. If you are wanting to go Marine Option, then voluntary 0600 PT really becomes mandatory PT. Cross-town programs are a tough way to go.
He looked at Vanderbilt and decided to go there and loves every aspect of it. He hasn't exactly taken the program by storm, but he's excited to be there and will sign his contract when he returns in a few weeks.
I will toss a turd in the punch-bowl and say that some NROTC units have historically had a great reputation in the Fleet where it matters, and some have not. Villanova, Marquette, Notre Dame, Holy Cross, Vanderbilt, and others have always been strong schools and their graduates pop up everywhere. Last year I was in a command of 50 people, and 4 of them were from Marquette. Conversely, I have only met one officer who graduated from NROTC Berkeley. I won't necessarily link his poor performance to his alma mater - he'd have done poorly wherever he went. (smart, but very poor leadership qualities). I often wonder where all the grads from Berkeley, U of Idaho, Prairie View, and other units end up, because I've never met a single one of them. Ever. And I always ask where they are from. Not because I form an opinion, but because I'm curious.
Ask how the NROTC unit's relationship is with the university. Some schools love NROTC; others seem to grudgingly accept their existence.
Final note - if the NROTC Instructor talks about how his main job is to help you get through college, and they avoid any additional pressure by limiting the "Navy Stuff," my recommendation would be to find another school. True statement - that's what a very well known high quality academic school told my son. "You'll learn how to be an officer during Summer Training and once you commission." WRONG. That unit has abdicated their primary responsibility, which is to train Naval Officers. If they aren't training officer candidates, then those officer candidates will never get trained.
Good luck, and end of old guy rant.