Frigates have their pluses: you get to go places and do missions nobody else does. Sometimes it's because those missions suck, but sometimes it's because it's not high-profile enough for the Aegis boats. In any case, you're not tied to the strike group. And being on a small ship with a small wardroom means that the SWO is less likely to forget where you are in your quals and where you need to go (i.e., get on the watchbill as OOD U/I for an anchoring).
The thing about a good CO/XO making your tour is universal, no matter your shoe color. Good front office means a happy command. Bad front office means life sucks. This is true even when you don't have direct contact with the boss on a daily basis - misery trickles downhill. I've seen both extremes - skippers everyone would follow into hell, and CO's no one would cross the street to piss on if they were on fire.
The thing about a good CO/XO making your tour is universal, no matter your shoe color. Good front office means a happy command. Bad front office means life sucks. This is true even when you don't have direct contact with the boss on a daily basis - misery trickles downhill. I've seen both extremes - skippers everyone would follow into hell, and CO's no one would cross the street to piss on if they were on fire.