A4s, so, basically the gist of what you're saying is that homosexuality is wrong and perverted, and anyone who believes otherwise lacks common sense and is PC, a poor leader, a poor example, etc.
One thing I have learned is that good and bad leaders come in all packages. I've seen guys that could've starred in a John Wayne WWII movie who couldn't lead a pack of dogs to the butcher shop. I've seen guys who look like bookkeepers who could lead cats to the dog pound. The fact that a leader has to toe your party line says more about you than about the people you're passing judgement on. Just because they don't share your personal view on a particular issue, they can't be good leaders? Sorry, I'm not buying it.
The only moral values we all need to share in the military are "honor, courage, and commitment." The rest is all window dressing.
The sodomy rules are broken by straights all the time. That can't be your rationale. A biblical reference to Leviticus would at least frame it in a religious context and I would understand. In the end, though, it appears that basically you just don't like gays. Fine. There are lots of things I don't like, but unless they're dishonorable, illegal, or unethical, I live with them.
Those 18-year-old airmen and seamen will surprise you. The younger one goes, the less they oppose homosexuality. It's the way society is going. George Will said it best: "To my kids' generation, whether a person is gay is about as controversial as whether he is left handed." Now, when a leader is the lone hold-out against the acceptance of homosexuals, does that make him a poor leader? After all, he's out of line with his troops, right?
The future is just fine. The armed forces of the US are going to take it to our enemies, just as they always have. Every generation has its challenges, and every older generation always thinks the new one is screwing things up.