KCRSX- There are a lot of sour grapes here. Lots of these guys got burned with marriage. I know that you want to rationalize it that you're not these guys, and you can handle all this stuff.
After all, when you have an idea and you want to succeed with it, you don't go to the people who have failed with the same idea, you go to the people with the same idea who succeeded and get wisdom from them, right?
My marriage is probably going to be one of those weird ones that makes it through the military and stays together for...ahem...forever. So, I don't have the sour grapes that everyone else has. Take it from me brother, you are barking up the wrong tree. My wife and I were dating for FOUR YEARS before we got married. She stayed put while I went and played guns. She went through college. I went overseas. We were apart A LOT, and believe me, I got your idea a thousand times. You know what happened? SHE STUCK AROUND. If it is meant to be, it WILL BE. If we had forced it so we could "be together" and get better pay and stupid stuff like that, we would be in ruins with tons of debt and kids and all that stuff. When you get debt and kids too early, it's an almost certain deal breaker when you add in deployments. I can't imagine also adding in some other guy's child.
Bottom line...Use your BRAIN and reassess your situation. There will not be a rational person who thinks this would be a good idea. You and her think it is, but you're not thinking rationally. I would propose to you that it would suit you much better to build your home for her, and learn how the real military works so you can usher her into our way of life in a proper, healthy fashion. What you have now is an unhealthy, unstable environment for raising a proper, successful family.
You're at a crossroads, and you're about to take the wrong path.
After all, when you have an idea and you want to succeed with it, you don't go to the people who have failed with the same idea, you go to the people with the same idea who succeeded and get wisdom from them, right?
My marriage is probably going to be one of those weird ones that makes it through the military and stays together for...ahem...forever. So, I don't have the sour grapes that everyone else has. Take it from me brother, you are barking up the wrong tree. My wife and I were dating for FOUR YEARS before we got married. She stayed put while I went and played guns. She went through college. I went overseas. We were apart A LOT, and believe me, I got your idea a thousand times. You know what happened? SHE STUCK AROUND. If it is meant to be, it WILL BE. If we had forced it so we could "be together" and get better pay and stupid stuff like that, we would be in ruins with tons of debt and kids and all that stuff. When you get debt and kids too early, it's an almost certain deal breaker when you add in deployments. I can't imagine also adding in some other guy's child.
Bottom line...Use your BRAIN and reassess your situation. There will not be a rational person who thinks this would be a good idea. You and her think it is, but you're not thinking rationally. I would propose to you that it would suit you much better to build your home for her, and learn how the real military works so you can usher her into our way of life in a proper, healthy fashion. What you have now is an unhealthy, unstable environment for raising a proper, successful family.
You're at a crossroads, and you're about to take the wrong path.