Yo, so..I work in anthro with the LCDR you are referring to and her civilian assistant. They are both good professionals at what they do.
You are not as anonymous as you think you are AND I will have you know both of them do come on Airwarriors and read from time to time. You aren't doing yourself any favors by saying she's out to get you. They have no pride in telling someone they can't fit in the cockpit.
It is a safety issue that has to be considered above your desire to want to be a pilot.
I can't say I don't blame you for the disappointment but you have to take it like a man and not blame others. Like NAMI, anthro is just something you cannot help. I ended up to be a towering 5'7 physical specimen. Whatever.
They also don't HAVE to give you a remeasurement if you are that far off, they do it to try and help you out. When you are as far off as you are, it's usually just tough luck. So try being a little more greatful. You could be unemployed like many other people out there.