I will tell you why you got the "disrespectful responses."
fc2spyguy told you: "I'd do a search and come back with some more specific questions."
To which you replied that you did a quick look, couldn't find anything and said "I'll be waiting or just PM me "
fc2spyguy then told you: "If you put 'lifestyle' into the search you'll find a myriad of things."
Then things went downhill with you just digging a deeper hole and talking shit to people who were all basically saying the same thing: "Do a little research and come back with questions a little less broad than 'lifestyle'."
At some point in there, phrogdriver actually answered a lot of your questions, and if you would have waited around for him to answer your second set, you would probably be golden.
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You have a point, that maybe too many questions are answered with "use the search!" and a lot of that info is dated, however your entire tone says that you didn't really bother to even do basic research. Maybe you did, but that's what I got from the way you presented yourself.
Which brings me to: The way you present yourself. As a someone looking to become an officer, you should try and present yourself as a professional. On the internet (or with e-mail), you are almost completely judged based on the way you write.
I'm not saying you should be an english major or that everything needs to be perfect, just that maybe if you slowed down a bit and capitalized a few words here and there, and threw a few pieces of punctuation in, you might get more of a favorable response.
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I hope that also answered your PM, if it didn't let me know and I will try again.