Jen
Wife of a Growler stud
That sucks! I don't think anyone (man or woman) should be paid a dime if they cheat on their spouse. She should be paying you. That's awful!
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Monster Marine OCS thread: stupid questions answered here!
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That sucks! I don't think anyone (man or woman) should be paid a dime if they cheat on their spouse. She should be paying you. That's awful!
Its confirmed..You didnt marry a women. You married an evil, life-sucking demonette. I mean...the bitch made a porno????? Jesus...
Yeah...I hope so. I mean, how do you keep from going batshit crazy on someone like that?
I think this is a great thread... I think it is beneficial to discuss effective 'relationship management' in the context of a career as a naval officer. In all reality, having a relationship can greatly affect ones future and career in the navy. In light of that, I think this thread deserves as many insightful posts as possible!
To give my .02... I think there are many women out there that simply aren't 'built' for the military lifestyle. Some want and need the 24/7 attention, and simply can't live without it. These are the ones that can't hack a relationship with a military man. This can be for many reasons; insecurity being one of them.
Regardless, as was said, if she can't handle OCS, how in the hell is she going to handle a deployment?
It seems important (at least from my perspective) to draw a clear line in the sand regarding how much you put in to a relationship at this point in your training. I think it is fine to be in a healthy relationship while in training and what not, but be careful how much (emotional energy, and effort) you dump in to it.
I say do what you want. If you have the time to reconcile and you want to try and make things work, I don't see why it would be unacceptable to do so. However as soon as this effort (that you are putting in to it) starts to even come close to affecting your training (it can do so in several ways; stress, emotional instability, sleep deprivation, etc etc), you are crossing the line.
I think its safe to say that you are held to very high performance standards in the next couple years. And that your performance in this period will have a lasting impact on the rest of your life. Don't even think about letting a girl like this negatively affect your future..
metrogirl
New Member
One thing that my grandmother always said was, "In order to have a successful marriage, a woman should never come between her husband and his career. If his career is what he chose, what makes him happy, and supports his family, then no woman as the right to compromise that and vice versa." I agree with this and Godspeed when he said that not everyone is cut out for this lifestyle. It is hard and not everyone is cut out for it. Better you know now than years down the road when you've invested a lot into the relationship and the woman herself.
Your career is important and if the woman truly loves you and supports you she will stand by you and support you regardless of how 'tough' it is.
Your career is important and if the woman truly loves you and supports you she will stand by you and support you regardless of how 'tough' it is.
Actually, unfortunately for MB's situation, it's a confirmed fact. Quite a bit can be found with a simple Google search, but I'll forgoe what to search for as the results will burn your eyes right out of your head......
My mom and dad met while he was at flight school. My dad had a girlfriend/wife to be of 7 years back in PA. He came home broke up with his girlfriend and married my mom 5 months later. Its crazy though because the night they met they knew they were going to get married. Buddy everything tends to work out. Let god bring you the one, hopefully she is a Florida girl as they are the best.
mustang_wife
Domestic Engineer Specialist
Just make sure you address him as "2nd LT (Last Name)" on the envelope or else he will never get it!
bad day.
mustang_wife
Domestic Engineer Specialist
my husband's friend got a nice big ole vibrator
......lol. He was also the honor grad so he might not have felt the wrath others might have endured. 
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You don't go batshit crazy. It is unproductive and could ruin your career.
Mine was a live-in; no alimony. She threatened me, my career and my guns. I got back most of the money she took (via credit issued to her in my name) never lost either my guns or my career. AND, most importantly, I made many copies (VHS) of both the tape she made with another man (while I was away at ASO school) and her address book.
Trev82, consider yourself lucky to have found out this early that she is not the one for you. This is not to compare her to mine, or MBs or Intruder Drivers. And she may very well be a wonderful person...but, being wonderful does not mean that she is the one for you.
Keep plugging away, you will find someone.
I met my wife in 98. She held the door open for me (happened to see me get out of the truck on crutches) and I thought 'wow, great ass'. Got to know her for a couple of months, dated, then got married two years later for the first time at the age of 45. I met some nice women along the way, but am very glad I waited until my career was firm and I knew there would be no more deployments..and I met the right woman for me. She is absolutely faithful and has strong family values and......buys me guns, keeps my humidor set, etc.
Good luck to you...and be patient.
You don't go batshit crazy. It is unproductive and could ruin your career.
Mine was a live-in; no alimony. She threatened me, my career and my guns. I got back most of the money she took (via credit issued to her in my name) never lost either my guns or my career. AND, most importantly, I made many copies (VHS) of both the tape she made with another man (while I was away at ASO school) and her address book.
Trev82, consider yourself lucky to have found out this early that she is not the one for you. This is not to compare her to mine, or MBs or Intruder Drivers. And she may very well be a wonderful person...but, being wonderful does not mean that she is the one for you.
Keep plugging away, you will find someone.
I met my wife in 98. She held the door open for me (happened to see me get out of the truck on crutches) and I thought 'wow, great ass'. Got to know her for a couple of months, dated, then got married two years later for the first time at the age of 45. I met some nice women along the way, but am very glad I waited until my career was firm and I knew there would be no more deployments..and I met the right woman for me. She is absolutely faithful and has strong family values and......buys me guns, keeps my humidor set, etc.
Good luck to you...and be patient.
Yeeaahh...its hard to believe, but I really was kidding with my comment, but whatever.
I just cant believe how hard it has to be on some of you guys dealing with the stress of deployments, etc. then to have to deal with that kind of shit on top of that. As if its not enough to just say "im cheating on you and I want a divorce", but to rub a video in your face on top of it. I dont know...Im out of my league here, im not married.