Preach, brother, preach!
To OP, like it has been said before, if you want orders to Norfolk, it's really easy to get them. As a SWO if you want to go to Norfolk, you'll get orders to Norfolk; heck, even if you don't want orders to Norfolk, you'll eventually get orders to Norfolk. Also, unless things have changed significantly since I graduated, the class officer will drop a big (or small) list of potential orders in the laps of the SWO-selects sometime after RLP (week 4 , IIRC). Once that happens, they usually have a week or two to figure out amongst themselves who gets what. My class was lucky in the fact that not a single one of us got orders to Norfolk, the class behind us was about 90% Norfolk/Little Creek. The caveat to all of this is that while his first tour may be to Norfolk, be prepared that homeport shifts could happen at any time, and at some point in his career, yours may have to take a backseat to his or you'll have to endure long periods of separation to both progress in your chosen fields.
And to close it all out, if your husband has the option, tell him to pick an Gator Freighter out of Little Creek over Norfolk. Little Creek's no hustle ways and less gate traffic makes it the prime choice for discerning SWOs in the Hampton Roads area.
At OCS it's all listed as hull and homeport, so "USS NEVER-DOCK out of Naval Station Norfolk."
BT
How do I multi-quote? This new forum software has got me confused.