Doc,
Working with a recruiter feels like a more hands off approach from the enlisted process. I've worked with two different officer recruiters and the enlisted side seem to really care more about the prospects they have. But they put a lot of work on the applicant to get all their documents, and less hand-holding than the enlisted side. My OR, CPO type, was pretty good about keeping me up to date but I also had a stack of document ready for him before I even walked in.
It is more hands off, and when you think about it there is a reason for that. An officer will not have their hand held while an enlisted we tell them when to get up, when to eat, what steps to do the work, etc......
A person applying to be an officer is typically older and educated a person applying to be enlisted is typically 17-20 no college degree.
It is not so much that there is more care for enlisted as that we would expect more from the officer candidates.
If OR's followed these steps it would make things much easier, before you leave the current appointment/phone call make sure both parties know what the next step is, when that next step will occur, and when the next meeting/check in will be. I made it a point to never end a current meeting without having the next meeting set up. There are times when the next meeting was a 5 minute update, there are times when the meeting was an hour long signing documents, but the important thing was that we both knew when and where the next contact was going to be.
If your OR isn't doing the above take the initiative, you can drive the check-in's, take control of your recruiting process.