That's all well and good, but what if your judge of character tells you your boss (CO/XO/DH) is the opposite of those good things? You can do all the things you mentioned, as well as find ways to "resist" their "leadership techniques" (and by resist, I mean SERE resist. Those that know what I mean, know what I mean), but if at the end of the day your CO/XO/DH doesn't take inputs from his O's, dictates edicts rather than makes decisions based on reason, and/or is generally a pain in the ass, your life still sucks.
Are all ships like this? No, of course not, but there are plenty that are and it sucks for everyone. Yes, even the aviators.
LOL NO doubt ... I agree with what your saying.. I've had my share of bosses like that both Chiefs and Civilian Managers. There isn't much to be said if the upper echelon has Q-tips in their ears =/ I guess what I was getting as was there is that hope of eventually getting to that position and being different then what you have observed..
Example... Going through A school I thought most of the instructors and BDO's were assholes.. This is partially due to the fact I was 17,18 years old yes.. But ultimately I felt that it was a bit in excess. Fast forward 5 years later I was a NMT instructor at STG school. I held martial law when needed, other times I treated my sailors with the respect and courtesy as I would if they were on a ship with me... Even to this day I still get random facebook invites from some of my former students and I was only there 10 months.
Ultimately I suppose it's just how much bullshit you can put up with initially to get to the level of being able to make a change.