It's the life we married into...
-TBS sucks for family members.
- Regardless of what Col. Chase said in OCS, if you have kids in school/wife in work/a wife who is not very confident being by herself, dont bring her/them. Why? Because TBS sucks for family member's.
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Sorry, I just had to respond to this: I try to discourage negativity
As a marine wife for 9yrs I feel that TBS is a great learning experience for newly married marine wives and families. If you are a wife that is not very confident in yourself, gets angry over moving away, being separated, or having to leave a job, juggling kids schools, or depends a lot on your husband then you or your husband will not be happy throughout his career in the military.
You have to learn to be independent, you have to learn to occupy your time, you have to learn to be flexible, you have to learn to make friends, you have to learn to rely on friends, and you have to learn to make adjustments. These are just some of the skills that as a spouse you need to try to obtain. We've lived in 9 homes in 9 years and there were times when I moved overseas and then said goodbye to my husband as soon as I arrived. He gave me a kiss handed me the POA papers and was off. I had to learn the ropes in another country, the language, the culture, the driving, purchasing a car, children, schools, medical dental- and the list goes on...all without him. Another time, I had to deliver my first child a week after we moved on Pendleton without hubby, family, or friends.
If you are not able to handle the time apart at TBS which is only a 6 months school (which you do see your husband almost every night and weekends) then there is a rude awakening in the time to come. It's part of the choice we made when we married our marines and into the marine corps life and ways. Unfortunately, there's a strong chance he's going to miss birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, your children being born, and there isn't anything he can do about it.
It's not his fault and you shouldn't make him feel guilty over any of this. This is his job and it will take up all of his time and you have to allow him to do it well especially here at TBS. :icon_wink
This is where he will learn how to lead his men. He will hopefully, train hard so not only are his chances of coming back alive greater but all of his men under him that he is in charge of. As a prior enlisted wife I had only hoped the officers in charge of my husband at the time had taken TBS seriously and strived to be the best not only for themselves but for my husband's best interest.
My only advice is to become a strong independent woman and stand on your own two feet. Take TBS as a preparation as to what will come. Let's just play devils advocate for a minute and say that your husband doesn't get sent anywhere and has a nice ole safe desk job for the remaining time in his military career- was it so bad to learn to be independent and not have to rely on him, and knowing that if something ever happened to him you would be fine to manage on your own?
Behind every great man stands a great woman...so be that woman.
~Rebecca~
mustang wife
TBS