Ard. . . I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, so I'm operating on the assumption that you are a nice person who didn't quite think about the way some of the stuff you are saying could be read and since the internet doesn't give any tonality indicators I'm guessing you are not trying to come off as a brat who doesn't want to hear the answer to the question you asked.
So here is my advice
Be humble, there isn't a single person on these boards who doesn't want to serve their county that doesn't make you special that makes you par for the course around here. While you maybe the real deal and are a walking stud who screams *I* should be a SEAL in person, but keep in mind how many people are not. How many james bond/Capt America/spy/seal wannabes show up and expect to be treated as god's gift to the american military, obviously the people who have been around this board since the dawn of time are a little over it.
You are at the very start of the process to become an officer, many of these posters (Bret) included are already officers. *If* you get accepted, they will out rank you and you will be required to show them the respect their rank entitles them to regardless of what you think of them. Why on earth in a job interview would you think you get to be disrespectful of the hiring manager who will be your boss if you get the job?
I am very much of the opinion that if I'm lucky enough to get commissioned and those officers will be able to order me to jump, *before* I get in I should be asking them if they want two sugars or cream while I jump off what ever stupid cliff they think is a good idea.
You are here asking for advice and help, if a student were to walk into your office with the attitude that you have shown I doubt you would be falling all over your self to help them. While you clearly are an accomplished individual, that matters and at the same time it really doesn't.
Your first question was how can I skip to the head of the line, because what I choose to do in my civilian life is/was more important than what anyone else has chosen to do. While it might be true asking the way you have chosen to might rub people the wrong way and suggests that maybe HUMINT isn't going to be your calling. Had you said "okay guys this is my situation, and this is what I think my options are and this is what I want, can you give me advice or help me" I suspect it would have gone over a lot better.
You are clearly not the typical candidate and thats okay, I'm sure not either. In some ways that maybe what would make us a better candidate than someone else but you also have to be realistic. Maybe you will be the first SPECWAR guy to get a wavier over 30 but if you are going to try to buck the system which you clearly are and even 15 min of reading around would have told you that, showing up with your hat in hand asking for help will always work much better than showing up with your pants down trying to measure.
BUDS is about getting shit on and then smiling and asking for more (and being crazy enough to want it). If you can't deal with this amount of crap it would be hard to have implicit faith you are going to want to deal with the "fun" that is BUDS