MB, you seem to have met every asshole, aggressive, boundary-less gay man alive. Perhaps you think most gays are that way because when you notice that behavior, you associate it with your preconceived notions of gayness, but when you just meet a guy who seems cool and you have a nice chat about motorcycles or hunting or sports, you don't realize that you've just chatted with a gay person who is perfectly normal and respects typical societal norms about appropriate social interaction.
I've met probably more than my fair share of gay guys, having spent a number of years dancing (not the pole kind). And 98% of them were regular, decent, normal folks, many of whom you wouldn't have known were gay until you asked or met their boyfriend. The other 2% were aggressive an inappropriate and amoral. But guess what? I'd say that 2% of straight men are those same things. 2& of straight men can't take no for an answer, and are pushy even when it's clear their target isn't interested, and all the things you seem to dislike about what you believe is standard gay behavior, but is really only deviate behavior. It's just that you aren't the target of the 2% of straight guys like this, so you don't really notice it. Trust me; it exists.
I'm sensing a lot of confirmation bias in your posts. You think gays are a certain way and you disagree with their "lifestyle" so when you see someone who matches your low opinion of gays, you note it as proof.
Being gay=being black my not be a valid comparison, but I've always related being gay to being in an inter-racial relationship. No one can really say whether it's a choice who you fall in love with, but some people fall in love with someone who is of a different race. But no matter what your religion or your upbringing or whatever else says about it, if you've got a problem with a black man and a white woman (or whatever racial combination), then in my book, that makes you a bigot. And if you say that it's okay but you don't want to see it, or that you have white friends who date black women and you are still friends with them so you must be just fine even though you think their relationship is wrong, or whatever else, by my personal definition, if you are anti-interacial marriage, then you are a bigot. And to say that they "shouldn't throw it in your face" and you're fine with them dating that black girl as long as you don't see it, or they shouldn't proclaim their love of black pussy publicly because that's gross... well, I think everyone knows what kind of reaction that would get.
I don't expect to change your mind, but know that a lot of people see if like I do. More and more everyday, thankfully. And just as I won't change your mind about it, you won't change my mind about the fact that a lot of what's been said in this thread is, IMO, bigoted, and that my heart aches for gay sailors and prospective sailors who have to read and hear these things.
